Understanding gynecologic care for teens
Dr. Amy Kelley:
I think that this is not always the easiest thing for parents to talk about. And so having someone who’s super comfortable talking about periods, talking about body parts, that is something that is really nice for teenagers to have. I often tell teenagers, I’m like, if you have embarrassing questions, I’m the girl to ask. Yeah, I don’t get embarrassed. Really. It’s hard to embarrass a gynecologist.
Courtney Collen (host):
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In this episode, we are talking about OB/GYN care for teens. So, if you are a parent of, or caring for, a teen and just aren’t sure where to start, we’re here to help kind of take out some of the guesswork and make this feel a little less intimidating. Maybe you’re asking things like, is it too early? Is something wrong or is this just a part of a young woman growing up?
Dr. Amy Kelley is a board-certified OB/GYN and a specialist in pediatric and adolescent gynecology at Sanford Health in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. She is the perfect person to help us dive right in. Dr. Kelley, welcome. Thanks so much for being here.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Thanks! It’s lovely to be here.
Courtney Collen:
We’re always glad to have you and your insights for conversations like this. So, let’s set the stage first and talk about what makes adolescent gynecology different from general gynecology care.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, I think there’s two big things that make it quite different. One is that we typically have parental involvement in adolescence, and obviously when you’re an adult woman it’s just you and the doctor and that puts kind of a different dynamic on things sometimes, both for parents but also for teenagers because sometimes this stuff isn’t very easy for teenagers to talk about in front of their parents.
And so sometimes it’s one of the first times that they’re seeing a doctor and maybe we don’t have their parent in the room for the whole time. Or maybe it’s the first time they’re really talking to a doctor about things like, you know, their genitalia or their periods and so it’s just a little bit different, a different dynamic.
I think the other thing is that adolescents and young girls are not the same as adults. Their brains are not fully developed, and also their reproductive system isn’t fully developed. The first couple years after your period, that immature system can behave just a little bit different than it does when you get, you know, 3, 4, 5, 6 and beyond years past your first period.
Courtney Collen:
In a little bit, we’ll talk about what that first appointment might look like with or without an adult. And what those conversations, how they might flow. But first, what are some of the most common reasons or concerns that you see an adolescent going in for OB/GYN care? Why would they need that?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, I think there’s kind of two big things that people come in for. One is the am I normal? Which is either like an anatomy issue or just a period issue where either Mom or the teenager for some reason is worried that something is wrong. And sometimes that’s true and sometimes it’s not. So that’s kind of, I call those the am I normal visits.
The other one is when they, the teenager or the mom or both of them really feel like there’s a problem like where something having to do with their period or reproductive health is interfering with their life and they need something done about it.
Courtney Collen:
What age or milestone – you talked about period, am I normal? So talk about like what age are we talking about and what age would you recommend a teen’s first visit?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, so ACOG (American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) actually recommends that adolescent women be seen between the ages of 13 and 16 for their first visit. And I think that that first visit often just depends on if things are going well for the teenager or not.
So, you know, really people can get their period even as young as like 9, especially in non-white populations. And so sometimes we’re seeing adolescents and people who are going through puberty and they’re not even really teenagers yet. So anytime that there’s a problem or a perceived problem, we are happy to see someone.
I think you can always ask your pediatrician or your family doc first because sometimes parents just are not as familiar with what’s normal in puberty and what isn’t. They kind of only know what happened to them. So that’s a good reason to come in is if your family doc or you are worried that something is kind of going awry during puberty or afterwards or you’re having issues.
But if it’s just like I think that my daughter needs to have a gynecologist, then sometime between age 13 and 16 is a good time to just get established even if things are going well for her.
Courtney Collen:
Sure. So you say maybe you call them like, am I normal appointments? Those kind of routine 13 to 16 age group. Walk us through what that kind of appointment might look like. Who needs to be there? Is this you one-on-one with the teen? Walk us through what that might look like.
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Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, so if it’s kind of I’m getting established, like having some questions appointment, really it’s us sitting in a room and talking. It’s not very common that a teenager has to get undressed for us unless they have a specific concern about a specific body part. Most of the time we’re just talking about, you know, when they got their period, what their period is like now, are they struggling with other things in school. It’s really more of like getting to know them as a person, particularly if they’re doing well.
I think a big part of gynecology, especially for younger women is trust. Because you’re talking to somebody about periods when you get older. You might be talking to us about sex, about contraception. And those are things that a lot of people really feel like they have to have trust in the person.
And then when you get to 21, you have a Pap smear, and it’s super nice if you’ve seen us, even if it’s only every year, every other year, you kind of like know our face. You’ve talked to us a few times and by the time we’re actually doing some of those more invasive exams, people feel like they already know us.
And that’s really kind of the whole point of it is having access to someone who could, they can talk to you about things that maybe they don’t feel comfortable talking to parents about or honestly sometimes parents are like, I don’t really know. You know, and that’s fair, right? We are not always taught these things about our bodies.
But I think it’s really important and empowering for teenagers to know what’s normal and what isn’t and when they should call and talk to us. Because sometimes teenage years can be kind of a scary time, especially those first couple years after your period.
Most of the time parents are there, especially for that first visit. If I get the feeling that maybe the daughter or the teenager has a couple of questions that maybe they feel a little weird about asking, sometimes I’ll kick Mom out or I’ll ask, “Do you want to talk to me by yourself?”
And you know, sometimes if it really doesn’t seem like that then I won’t necessarily talk to her alone until her follow-up appointment. I feel like that’s something that kind of just really depends on the mother-daughter or the mother-parent –
Courtney Collen:
Dynamic.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, dynamic. And also, a little bit how comfortable the adolescent might feel talking to me by herself because sometimes, you know, if you’re 10 or 11 and you’ve had your period for like a year and you’re having issues, you might not have ever really talked to the doctor just by yourself before. So it’s kind of intimidating sometimes.
I have everything from girls who are like telling me like what their blood looks like, you know, and all the nitty gritty details to someone who will like, barely even talk to me or like just doesn’t even want to even say the word period and you know, I think that just goes to like the fact that everybody’s individuals and this is a huge age range, you know?
If you’re 9 or 10 and getting your period, that’s a very different conversation. You’re still in elementary school. There’s different ways you look at the world than when you’re 13, 14. I mean there’s a huge amount of growth during that time and so it really can be quite widely different.
Courtney Collen:
Is there anything that a parent or caregiver can do before an appointment to help a teen feel prepared for a conversation with you?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
I think like just at least giving them the heads up of what kind of doctor we are. So like when we come in and start talking about periods, they’re not like, oh my god, what is this?
So I think at least them like knowing what kind of doctor they’re going to is probably a good step. Yes. It is helpful if people are having periods – especially if they’re having period problems with pain or irregular periods or feeling like they’re really heavy and unmanageable – I do think it’s helpful to maybe look and if you’ve been tracking periods or if you kind of have a calendar to look back on that so that you can answer some of those questions when we’re talking about some of that.
I feel like a lot of moms do that, but sometimes people come in with like their guardian, maybe like a sibling that has guardianship or foster parents or even like dad sometimes because that’s just the way it works out. And oftentimes those people maybe don’t have an idea of what that period pattern is. So just kind of either knowing that or making sure your kiddo knows that. Or your adolescent knows that. That’s very helpful.
Courtney Collen:
Even just jotting it down in a phone on a notes app or something.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, absolutely.
Courtney Collen:
That makes sense. Can a teen schedule their own appointment?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Typically, at least not in the state that we’re in (South Dakota) because we do have to have parental consent to see teenagers, to see people until they’re 18.
Courtney Collen:
Got it. How can parents or caregivers navigate normal puberty changes versus something that may need medical attention?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
I think that there is a wide variety of normal, which also throws a little bit of a wrench in it. But I do think that keeping track of periods when they first start to kind of know like what the actual pattern is. Is your teenager having issues with the period? Like, you know, is she bleeding through her clothes or onto her sheets at night? Are you noticing lots of clothes that have blood in them? Are you noticing like big mood changes around a period or that your kiddo is always missing a day of school because they feel like awful during their period or they’re throwing up? Those kind of things.
I think kind of just noticing that and kind of taking inventory of that I think is a good idea. Also being able to talk to them. You know, we’ve talked in the past about communication being really important during the teenage years even though they push you away and this is one of those times where you may have to pursue your kid a little bit, you know, and really make an effort to talk to them about these issues.
Because they may not always be super forthcoming about it. Especially if they’re embarrassed, like if they are kind of leaking into their clothes and things like that. That’s something that a lot of teenage daughters are like, you know, they kind of just don’t want anybody to know about. So sometimes you have to pursue your kids a little bit if you want to kind of know how they’re doing.
Courtney Collen:
Great insight. What should we understand about conditions like PCOS, which is polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis, or severe period pain in adolescents?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yeah, I think that the biggest thing is that if your kid is acting differently because of their period, like as far as missing school, not doing the things they normally do. You know, if they’re a runner and they never run during their period or if they aren’t going to their sports practice during that time because they don’t feel good. If it’s interfering with their life, it’s really time to talk to somebody about that because I think that sometimes if we had terrible periods as teenagers and nobody really did anything about it and they’re just like suck it up, then sometimes we’re like, oh well that’s normal and it might technically be normal but we can help so much.
And it’s really rough. Like teenagers, if they miss a couple days of school and you’re in high school, you’re behind. You know, it’s really hard to make that up sometimes. And so it can really interfere with their life even if you don’t necessarily always perceive it as being abnormal. If it’s interfering with life, it’s time to just come and see if we can help.
Courtney Collen:
And even if it would be normal and this is just kind of part of the routine, maybe you have some mild cramping but it’s new and it feels overwhelming. It’s still OK to come and say, “Hey, this is what’s going on.” Or a parent saying that, or the teen, and you just reassure them like this is part of this process.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Absolutely. And I think if you’re not sure if it’s normal or not, then send off a message to your primary care provider if you haven’t seen us yet, you know to your pediatrician or to your family medicine person. They may or may not feel comfortable following up with you on period issues. I think it kind of depends on the person.
But they can, they do know what’s normal and what isn’t and what maybe you should come in for. PCOS is something that regular puberty can look a lot like. PCOS and regular puberty for the first two years after you get your period, there’s a wider variation in what’s normal. You can get it every 20 to 40 days. It can vary from period to period and how long it is and how heavy it is. And so PCOS in itself is not always something we diagnose until people have had their period for years.
And that’s really because some of the normal puberty like beginning of your period things are the symptoms of PCOS too. You know, like a lot of kids get acne and that can be a sign of PCOS but it can also just mean your kid just is going through puberty. So that is something that if you have concerns about, absolutely ask us about. But just know that it’s not something that we’re going to be like your kid has this right away because it isn’t something we typically diagnose in the first couple years after they get their period.
With something like endometriosis, that is something sometimes kids have symptoms right away. Really the thing I always tell people to look out for if you have endometriosis in your family is if right away periods are really painful and have painful or they have lots of GI issues around the time of their period.
Typically for the first couple years teenagers don’t always ovulate. And so actually, usually their periods aren’t painful. So if your kid, very first or second period, is already really complaining, pain, missing school, that’s not necessarily what I would expect. I think sometimes people watch that for a little bit and don’t realize that it, for kind of your typical puberty, it’s going to take two to three years before you have pain. That’s kind of what we expect is you don’t have pain right away. So if you do, that actually is a good reason to contact us.
Courtney Collen:
Could an adolescent gynecologist such as yourself be considered a patient’s primary care provider? Like talk about how you and other adolescent gynecologists might work with primary care providers, physicians?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
For most part, I really recommend that people still stick with their primary care physician, whether that’s a family medicine person or a pediatrician because there are some things that I think is better from them. And I don’t think that we completely can cover everything that a primary care doctor can cover. You know, certainly there’s lots of stuff that we can do. If you’re behind in your vaccines, we’ll catch up.
I think there’s value in still seeing your primary care provider. And that’s particularly true if your kiddo has any medical issues because we don’t really necessarily like take care of asthma. If your kid is sick, I’m not going to see your teenager to do a strep test. And so you still need your primary care doctor.
And both myself and Dr. (Elizabeth) Miller who are the two OB/GYNs here at Sanford who do a lot of pediatric and adolescent gynecology, both of us talk to pediatricians. If family docs have questions about something, we get messages from them all the time, and we will often kind of answer some of their questions. Or if they are wondering if someone should come see us, that’s a communication that’s often happening in the chart.
We are very happy to work with your primary care doctor, especially for kiddos who have like complex medical issues. Which is one of the things that we do a lot of is complex people, teenagers with diabetes, with like Type 1 diabetes or other significant medical issues. Sometimes periods are part of that, or they make it worse, or they need kind of some different kinds of care. And so that’s something that we really work well with primary care providers to make sure that we’re kind of covering the whole person.
Courtney Collen:
Sure. So you would really recommend starting there at your primary care provider, family medicine provider, and then it would essentially be a referral to you?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Absolutely. You know, occasionally moms see us and they’re like, “Hey, my daughter – this is happening. Is that OK? Can she come see you?” And yes, of course. Like that’s also an OK time to ask. We may not have a lot of time to delve into it because we’re really there to take care of you if it’s your appointment. But many of my colleagues will see teenagers, especially older teenagers and often do when they see like the mom, you know, because then they kind of have that continuity too. And it’s somebody the mom trusts.
Courtney Collen:
Why is it important, Dr. Kelley to have specialized care for this early stage of life?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
I think that this is not always the easiest thing for parents to talk about. And so having someone who’s super comfortable talking about periods, talking about body parts, that is something that is really nice for teenagers to have.
I often tell teenagers, I’m like, if you have embarrassing questions, I’m the girl to ask. Yeah, I don’t get embarrassed. Really. It’s hard to embarrass a gynecologist.
A lot of this stuff is new to both parents and to teenagers. It’s a learning curve kind of to know how to address it as well as sometimes what’s normal. And I think a generation or two ago, like people didn’t talk about periods. You know, we hid when we were going to the bathroom, we were like, you know, did everything we could to hide those tampons. Like nobody should know that we’re having our period.
Courtney Collen:
Keep the wrapper quiet.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yes, absolutely. Like even in the stall you’re like, don’t make any noise.
Courtney Collen:
Coughing over the sound.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Yes. So I think that has changed for the better, you know, for the most part. But it’s still one of those things that sometimes parents aren’t exactly sure how to address certain issues. And some things have changed. Period underwear was not around a generation ago. Like menstrual cups and discs and some of these things like moms are like, I don’t know anything about this. I need some help here. Which is totally fine and we are here to help.
Courtney Collen:
I mean we could go on and on about those products.
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Well yeah and we could go on and on about, you know, all of these things, about sex education and how, and you know, and you and I have talked before that unfortunately I don’t think we always get the greatest reproductive health education. And so, you know, I think that sometimes talking about these things isn’t easy for parents either. And we are here to help them out, but we’re not here to take their place. You know, like it’s still super important that you talk to your kids about these things and have that open communication. But we can help you with that. Especially if you feel a little bit unprepared for it.
Courtney Collen:
Yeah. At least helping lay the foundation and giving you a platform to go from there. And we’ve had so many conversations about how to navigate those conversations which has been super helpful for our audience.
Are there any misconceptions you hear, or I’m sure there are plenty you hear, but help us clear some up. What are some of the things that parents might not be totally clear on when it comes to adolescent gynecologic care?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
Sometimes people come in and they have prepared their teenager to have a speculum exam and to have a pelvic exam, and so one of the big things is we don’t do Pap smears until age 21 unless you’re a transplant patient. But we don’t have a lot of transplant patients in young people.
Courtney Collen:
Do you mean transplant patients?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
If you’ve had an organ transplant. If you’ve had a kidney transplant or a liver transplant, then we start them at 18. But that is a very, very small slice of the pie. Most people don’t need them until age 21.
And that’s a common question I get and sometimes people ask me why and we talk about the fact that most people if they have mildly abnormal Paps as teens, they go away. And that’s why we kind of wait and check at 21.
The other thing that I think there’s a misconception about is that I’m just going to talk to people about birth control and I’m just going to talk to them if they’re having sex and all we’re worried about like is preventing pregnancy, which yes, super important to prevent pregnancy. And there are teenagers having sex and that is a reality parents need to know. But that is not the only reason to come and see us.
Many people have period issues to the point where it is bothering them. It is interfering with their life. Sometimes, if you have other medical problems, it’s interfering with your other medical problems. And so we often do period management or menstrual management for many, many other reasons.
So your teenager can come and see us even if they’re not having sex, even if that’s not even like anywhere near their reality yet. And I think that that’s something that can sometimes like be misconstrued as well.
And then I think like just what the first couple years of having periods is like and how it can be a little bit more irregular than when you’re an adult, and I think a lot of moms don’t always realize that. So I talk to a lot of people about that as well.
Courtney Collen:
Thank you for helping us clear that up. That’s really helpful. How do early positive experiences with reproductive health care shape a teen’s long-term well-being?
Dr. Amy Kelley:
I think it can make a huge difference. You know, if you have a traumatic experience at 21 with a Pap smear with someone you’ve never met before, then how likely is it that you’re going to come back and get a Pap smear the next time you need one?
You know, maybe you won’t because it was super traumatic and weird. Having some comfort with somebody before we’re ever doing some of those things that are a little bit more tricky and it’s not that Pap smears – Pap smears should not be painful. They should not be difficult for people. But I think there’s this idea in culture that like they’re the worst things in the world so people are scared of them.
So it’s so much better if when they’re doing something that they think might be scary, that it’s with somebody that they have seen for a couple years and somebody that they’ve talked to about hard things already. Because if you have good experiences early on, you’re more likely to get routine gynecologic care. You’re more likely to talk to your doctor when something is going on and you’re not sure if it’s normal or not. And those are really important things to talk to your doctor about and to not be embarrassed to ask about.
And I think that the earlier we learn all our body parts, the earlier we learn how to talk to people about these things that can be a little more difficult to talk about, the better off we all are. And hopefully that will lead to your teenager becoming an adult that takes good care of their health, that knows they have somebody they can come to if they’re having these issues. And that they won’t be too embarrassed to ask us when they have issues.
As you know, I’m a huge vaccine advocate. Vaccines are one of the most important medical advances we’ve ever had. And one vaccine in particular that teenagers, or actually you can get it as young as 9, is the HPV vaccine. And I would just encourage parents if they have any questions about it, talk to your primary care provider. If you’re seeing one of the adolescent gynecologists and your kids have not gotten that yet and you have questions, please ask us.
HPV does not just cause cervical cancer. It causes head and neck cancers, it causes rectal cancer and it is transmitted skin-to-skin so you can get it without having penetrative sex. You can get it without having sex at all. And you can get it even when you use condoms consistently. Almost everyone gets exposed to it at some point in their life.
And I think there’s a lot of misconceptions about it and I often am like talking to people about it in their teen years because they didn’t get it when they were younger. And it works the best if you get (HPV vaccine) before age 15. It works, and you only need two shots if you get it before the age of 15. Hopefully soon, maybe we’ll only need one. But as of now we recommend two by the age of 15.
And so I would just really encourage people to talk to their doctor about that. I completely understand everybody wants to do the right thing by their kiddo and it’s OK to have questions. But definitely it’s also OK to ask us so we can tell you what we think and what we know.
The only other thing I would say is there are a couple of vaccines that your kids need before they go to college, their meningitis vaccines. One, which is one of the other reasons why it’s still good to keep in touch with your PCP and still go to annuals until your kiddos are adults. But those vaccines are really important, and you don’t want to be getting a ton of vaccines the summer before you go to college when you can start getting them when you’re 16. So also just remember that there might be some vaccines your kids need at age 16.
Courtney Collen:
Good to take note.
Dr. Kelley, thank you so much. This was such great information and so helpful as always to have your insights on this topic. This was part of the “Her Kind of Healthy” podcast series by Sanford Health. For more, listen wherever you get your podcasts or online at news.sanfordhealth.org.